And now a perspective from the femme wife’s point of view – ok yes I was towel surfing on a Caribbean island patio shortly after our lives were threatened by a tropical storm however, there was a VERY good reason for this. We had cleared (at my insistence and some general hurricane advice) all the furniture off the lanai. As we prepared to leave I just didn’t have it in me to have our nice French hosts come home to find an empty space where their outside living room used to be. So being the good girl scout that I am I was wiping down the patio in the most efficient way I could think of (i.e. towels on my shuffling feet) while my wife sat by saying, “I told you we didn’t have to clear everything off”. She was right and I was wrong (yes dear I said it!) but I didn’t feel I should have to do all the work just because I had chosen to follow the National Weather Service’s advice and not hers! I was madder than a wet hen about my solo efforts and rather than talk things out like a grown-up I chose to show my displeasure by scowling at my wife each time I shuffled past the window. Finally, realizing that my imitation of a pissed off locomotive was getting nowhere and I was making a fool of myself , I calmed down and went in to apologize for my childish behavior. I’d been so unpleasant (and yes dear unreasonable) I assumed I would be met with a well-earned cold shoulder. As I began my mea copa Julie could no longer contain her glee and burst into good-natured giggles at my performance. As it turned out we both had a good laugh and to this day we often diffuse marital spats with imitations of the “Femme Wife” shuffle………..
Femme Wife Tip#1:
If you love each other, and don’t take yourself too seriously, even when you’re wrong things can turn out right.
Mindy – Femme Wife Extraordinaire
Julie
lindageb
femme wives are pretty great
I must say that that was a nice story and some excellent advise! Thank you both! Next time Jake “mimics” me in an effort to be funny and diffuse my ever growing attitude – I will indeed think of this.
Mindy! These are words to live by for any couple! JoAnna
Thanks for making my day!! Seeing as I am geneticaly related to Mindy this was particularly funny. Not only could I see Mindys’ behavhior as completely sound I remembered a similar circumstance in my own life. This puts girls behaving badly in a whole new light. As I recall I was throwing a fit because my husband had a large piece of marble cut (to surprise me) for the shelves he was building. For a control freak “surprises” aren’t fun. Lets just say the marble was met with displeasure. Understandably my husband chose to walk out. This was not an option for me so as he walked out into the garage I touched the garage door button to “capture” him. As angry as he was he was having a hard time keeping the grin off his face because clearly I had forgotten about the door in the garage. I simply can’t think of everything.