And now a perspective from the femme wife’s point of view – ok yes I was towel surfing on a Caribbean island patio shortly after our lives were threatened by a tropical storm however, there was a VERY good reason for this. We had cleared (at my insistence and some general hurricane advice) all the furniture off the lanai. As we prepared to leave I just didn’t have it in me to have our nice French hosts come home to find an empty space where their outside living room used to be. So being the good girl scout that I am I was wiping down the patio in the most efficient way I could think of (i.e. towels on my shuffling feet) while my wife sat by saying, “I told you we didn’t have to clear everything off”. She was right and I was wrong (yes dear I said it!) but I didn’t feel I should have to do all the work just because I had chosen to follow the National Weather Service’s advice and not hers! I was madder than a wet hen about my solo efforts and rather than talk things out like a grown-up I chose to show my displeasure by scowling at my wife each time I shuffled past the window. Finally, realizing that my imitation of a pissed off locomotive was getting nowhere and I was making a fool of myself , I calmed down and went in to apologize for my childish behavior. I’d been so unpleasant (and yes dear unreasonable) I assumed I would be met with a well-earned cold shoulder. As I began my mea copa Julie could no longer contain her glee and burst into good-natured giggles at my performance. As it turned out we both had a good laugh and to this day we often diffuse marital spats with imitations of the “Femme Wife” shuffle………..
Femme Wife Tip#1:
If you love each other, and don’t take yourself too seriously, even when you’re wrong things can turn out right.
Mindy – Femme Wife Extraordinaire